When Are You Successful?

Do you think you are successful? Do you feel successful? A better question would be, what is success actually? And what does success mean to you?

It’s hard to describe success. Success means something different to each of us. Success is more like a feeling. And feelings are so hard to explain. 

When you think about success, you can think about personal success and professional success. You can feel you’re successful professionally, but maybe you doubt your success personally.  

My own success-story

I feel pretty successful in life. I have a great husband, and we have been together for more than 3 decades. Together we have 3 awesome teenagers. They are well behaved toward us, their parents, and to others around them. Maybe I even feel, that being my biggest success, I’m proud of my kids! 

I also set goals for myself, like writing this blog. Every quarter, month, and week, I write down what I want to accomplish and what needs to be done to get there. And I’m proud to say that I usually reach my goals. That gives me an awesome feeling of success! 

Now let’s look at some areas where you can feel successful, shall we?

Successful with money

This often has to do with your career, your professional life. It’s important bringing in enough money to live comfortably. You don’t want to have to worry each month whether you have enough to make it to the next paycheck. And it would be nice if you could save some money each month for unexpected costs (a washing machine will always break down at impossible times, right?). 

Maybe you want to make a little bit more money, and you think about setting up a side business. Consider tutoring, virtual assisting, or catering parties. There are many things you can do to bring in a bit more money. And having a small business of your own could give you an excellent feeling of success too!

But I think you are most successful with money when you are responsible, in earning but also in spending your money. Like I mentioned earlier, you do want to put some money into a savings account each month. That is the responsible thing to do. And it gives you that feeling of being successful regarding your money. 

Successful in your marriage

You know what they say, a successful marriage is all about communicating with each other. Talk to one another about all things happening in your lives. Listen to each other and try to understand why certain things are relevant to your spouse. 

Also, give each other space. We all need our space now and then to be just ourselves, to do our own thing. But be aware of staying connected and doing fun things together too. My friend Karen has written a great article with 6 awesome tips to staying happily married. 

Successful as a mom

Do you consider yourself already a success as a mom? Never thought about it? Well you should, my friend. Just think about everything you have taught them already. I bet that has not always been an easy task. You can pat yourself on the back when they are polite to others, especially those that teach them something (at school, on the football field, or during music classes). 

Take a close look at how your teenagers behave, what language they use, and how they interact with their peers. But also how they connect with their brothers and sisters. How they communicate with you, their mom, and their dad. Of course, there is always some refining to do, and that’s ok. After all, they are still teenagers. But up til now, you are doing a great job, and you can consider yourself a success, I’m sure of that.

Successful as a person

This is a tough one, defining yourself being successful. But you could think about being successful as YOU, when you get things done in life you strive for. 

Do you set goals for yourself? And more important, do you reach your goals? That could be a sign of success. You want to accomplish something for yourself. Reaching goals is letting yourself grow, mentally, physically, emotionally, and maybe spiritually. When you reached a goal, you succeeded in working towards being a better person. 

It also has to do with your way of looking at life. Are you a positive lady, then looking at problems is way different than when you look at life in a negative daylight. Problems become challenges. And challenges can excite you, being a positive thing rather than a negative one. This also helps you feel good about yourself and giving you a feeling of being successful. So don’t give up and go for your goals!

Success has to do with your desire to want more for yourself and to make plans for your future. It has to do with being confident, pushing through the hard times, and how you deal with failure.

“What is it that you truly want out of life? Make it a must for you to make it your reality” – Tim Han

That’s when you are successful.

And remember, be proud of what you’ve already accomplished. You are successful, even if you don’t realize it right away. 

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